How on earth can you be a woman and not be a feminist!!!!? I don’t get it. I just don’t understand it! Every time I meet a female who tells me that she could not give a flying fuck about feminism I seriously just want to spike her drink with laxatives. I mean she must be constipated and the constipation must somehow be affecting her brain.

I think the most disgusting reason I have heard thus far is that women don’t want to be feminists because they want to get husbands. Wait a minute….WHAT!? Please tell those women to come over to LoveSelfBeautiful and read about the type of women men of substance are attracted to. Come on… There is no way in hell you can achieve greatness as a woman and not be a feminist. I mean, the mere desire to motivate and inspire other women to be great, to do better and be better, is an act of feminism. Feminism has nothing to do with having attitude problem and resenting men, (Men like featuring themselves in everything that has to do with women actually, no really, even the word MENopause attests to this) it’s about, but not limited to, having other genders acknowledge that women are human beings and not just things that make life more convenient. Feminism is about getting women to a position where they don’t need to barter sexual favours for promotion. It’s about getting us to a point where an entrepreneurial spirit is second nature to us, where aspiring to be a CEO, the president or an astronaut is no longer an admirable or impossible dream, but rather a norm.

The fact that we are feminists has no relation to the amount of respect we give to anyone. How can we demand respect as a gender then turn around and disrespect other genders?

In all honesty, I just feel that women who aren’t feminists are just ignorant. I don’t think they are aware of the inequalities they’re faced with because they just aren’t ambitious enough to ruffle up feathers; they aren’t opinionated enough to make people feel slightly uncomfortable or intrigued. It’s impossible for them to be walking in the footsteps of the greats because if they were, they would realise just how important it is to be an advocate for woman empowerment. So it’s obvious they have this notion that feminists are “I can do bad all by myself” kind of women, which is true. But I feel most of these traitors gravitate towards a life of being a domestic goddess. So they’ll work until they find a husband, get married, become stay at home moms, get bored with their lives and then decide to join the work force again right? I don’t think they’re aware of the fact that once a woman “takes a break” and then re -enters the workplace that [i]our average annual earning drops by 20% when we leave for 1 year;[ii] by 30% for two to three years, and[iii] in Britain, by 13% for each child you decide to have; all of these penalties just by virtue of us being women… but most importantly (for those Stepford wives) women with children :). How’s that for being a stay at home wife? If there’s anything you do before you have a child and are not a feminist, please get yourself a copy of Sheryl Sandberg’s book titled Lean In: Women, Work, And The Will To Lead just for perspective. If you’re a miser and refuse to spend R270 on some wisdom, go to the bookshop and read chapter 7.

So then, with everything said and done, if you feel that not striving to be the best person you can be will get you a GOOD husband; do you boo boo. As for the rest of us, we shall continue modelling the lives of the greats. Land up on Forbes… and live the beeeest lives with men doing the exact same thing with their lives. You know why? Because feminists are greeeeat and greatness attracts greatness.

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[i] Hewlett and Luce, “Off-Ramps and On-Ramps,” 46.

[ii] Stephen J. Rose and Heidi I. Hartmann, Still A Man’s Labor Market: The Long- Term Earnings Gap, Institute For Women’s Policy Research (2004), IO,

[iii] Hewlett and Luce, “Off-Ramps and On-Ramps,” 46.

2 Comments Add yours

  1. I didn’t realise I was a feminist until I became a mother. You were right, I was ignorant. Then I had a daughter and realised that I couldn’t afford not to be! Great message x


    1. Tshego says:

      I actually wrote a section about being a feminist as a mother. It did not make it to the final draft hahaha but I totally agree with what you’re saying. As a mother you cannot afford not to be a feminist. Especially if you have a daughter. Thank you so much for reading my post and I’m glad you enjoyed it.


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